A Must Read for Back to Work After Baby

Posted by on May 29, 2017 in Blog

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Lori Mihalich Levin’s book, Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, should be required reading for all new mamas. Mom of two and creator of Mindful Return, an e-course and blog for moms heading back to work after baby, this woman knows her subject. I encourage you to purchase multiple copies for baby gifts. (Full disclosure: your’s truly is quoted in the book about after-baby fashion.) What I find interesting is that Lori mentions more than once that she was able to feel her way through the return to work after her first child, but it was the second one that really put her over the edge. (Aside: Oh my do I concur!)

My point is, this book is good for all new mamas, not just first-timers. My boys are 3 and 5 and I found so many useful nuggets of information in the book that apply even now. Please support yourself and a local DC author by buying yourself a copy of this book on Amazon Prime right now. The book is also available on Kindle.  One of my favorite quotes is about what does and doesn’t “have” to get done in the house. Can you believe I used to spend an hour every morning after I dropped Max off at childcare straightening my apartment? And that I couldn’t go to sleep with dishes in the sink? Oh the sleep I could have gotten! You smarten up when the second one comes, if only because you literally do not have the time to adhere to your neat freak ways. The only solution, which is not an option for most of us, is to hire someone to be in your house 24/7 to clean up the constant messes. If you want to get over your OCD neatness, have children. Trust me, it works.

Don’t just take my word for it, see what Dana Bash of CNN has to say about Back to Work After Baby.

“This book is what every new mother needs, but just doesn’t know it. It is a must-read for practical reasons, with invaluable coping tips, and for emotional reasons, reminding us women that we are not alone. There is a sisterhood out there, and Lori’s book gives permission and a path to tap into it. Bravo!” – Dana Bash, CNN Chief Political Correspondent

Have you read Lori’s book? What did you think?

Happy Reading!

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Reset your Wardrobe. Reset your Life.

Posted by on May 29, 2017 in Blog

Looking for reasonably priced, simple but chic clothes that will take you from work to school event? The why behind The Reset’s clothing line is this: “We were tired of chasing trends and styles that looked bad, clogged our closets and cost too much. So we created R|Label, a simple line of clothes that’s easy to wear, flattering, and affordable.”  I am not going to argue with that premise! While you are shopping, you should also check out the site, meant to be a digital homebase for a new generation of women who are choosing to do things differently and create their own reset. I’m going to stop chatting now because, really, the clothes do all the talking.

Happy Shopping!

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P.S. I’m loving the silk blazer!

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R Label Cocoon Sweater, $145

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R Label Perfect Moto, $185

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R Label Open Silk Blazer, $165

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R Label Silk Caftan Dress, $155

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R Label Silk Tee, $115

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R Label Silk Trench, $185

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Larissa Loden, Edgy but Affordable Jewelry

Posted by on May 29, 2017 in Blog

Raise your hand if you’d love to know about an off-the-radar, edgy but affordable jewelry designer that you won’t see on everyone else? Yeah, me too! Mr. Real Life Style loves me so much that while his friends were doing other things he might have found more interesting, he accompanied me to the American Swedish Institute (more on this next week!) in the pouring rain, when we were in Minneapolis for a wedding last weekend.

Not only did he accompany me through The Weather Diaries, the West-Nordic fashion exhibit at the museum, he also discovered local designer Larissa Loden’s delicate jewelry in the chic gift shop. Her tagline is Elegance with an Edge, and she is true to her word. We suggest you make an order, stat. Scroll down to see the pieces Mr. Real Life Style helped me choose, as well as Kyle’s favorites. However, I encourage you to go to the website to scroll through the pages of interesting necklaces, earrings, and bracelets.  She even makes custom area code and map pieces. We hope you love Larissa’s pieces as much as we do!

Happy Shopping!

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Lani’s Necklaces

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Larissa Loden Inception Necklace, $34

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Larissa Loden Araya Necklace, $34

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Larissa Loden Pirouette Necklace in Black, $34

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Kyle’s Favorites

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Larissa Loden Fringe Necklace, $36

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Larissa Loden Waves Necklace in Rainbow Jade, $54

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Larissa Loden Spined Spike Earrings, $30

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Larissa Loden Entomologist Necklace, $68

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Larissa Loden Georgia Earrings in Snowflake Obsidian, $34

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Larissa Loden Black Drops Necklace, $32

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Larissa Loden Labradorite Bar Drop Earrings, $34

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Larissa Loden Large Brass Tiger Head Necklace, $13.50

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Packing 101: How to Create a Better Travel Experience

Posted by on May 20, 2017 in Blog

Sometimes a blog post just begs to be written. Like when multiple people ask you to write a post about packing in the span of a few weeks. I was just about to tackle it when I received a fabulous packing blog in my inbox. Fortunately, it was from my friend Rachel Rosenthal of Rachel Company, an oft-quoted professional organizer. And lucky for you, she agreed to let us share her packing wisdom on the RLS blog.

Bon Voyage!

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Packing is not a fun task, but–similar to organizing–when you create a system to help get the job done you are not only going to cut down on the time it takes to get ready for a trip, but you’ll also spare yourself the stress, second-guessing, and overstuffing that is commonly associated with it. In this post, I share my tips and tricks to create a better travel experience and how to (realistically) improve the functionality of your closet.

Create a packing list. I don’t know about you, but I rely on lists to reference in every aspect of my life and the same goes for when I’m packing. I have found it helpful to have a base packing list for every trip that you go on that includes your “must haves”, and then adapt as needed depending on the climate or activities that you will be doing on your trip. Here’s a packing list to help you get started, and a blank version if you want to start from scratch and customize based on your needs.

Plan your outfits in advance. Try on your full outfits (yes, even the shoes and accessories) so that you aren’t over-packing and to reduce the guesswork (or failed outfit attempts) during your travels. And remember: you don’t need nearly as many options as you may think! Pack exactly the amount of items that you need then throw in a versatile extra (like a top) in the off chance that something goes awry with your planned choices. Want to make the most out of your options? Choose one color family (black, brown, grey) and pack versatile pieces that you can mix and match.

Choose travel clothing wisely. Choose flexible, breathable clothing that can be layered to make yourself not only comfortable on the plane, but also prepare you for any temperature changes. This is a great opportunity to save space in your suitcase by wearing your heaviest articles of clothing and shoes. Since you can’t control the temperature on board make sure to bring a couple of essential layers for the inevitable chilly moments. Thick socks are great to slide on after you board (or opt for compression socks to help with circulation), and a thin blanket or oversized scarf that can be folded up and tucked in your bag will keep you toasty and cozy without adding bulk to your bag.

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White + Warren Cashmere Travel Wrap Scarf, $298

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Prepare your carry-on bag. If your carry on bag is the purse that you’ll be using on your trip, great. If not, pack a small bag or crossbody inside of your carry on to wear once you’ve reached your destination.

Keep items accessible. Keep your go-to items compartmentalized. Create a necessities pouch to hold the items that you reach for often, or if you are on a longer flight or are packing for more than just you (like your kids) a pouch for each category (i.e. beauty, tech, food) so that you just have to grab the desired pouch instead of pulling your entire bag up on your lap.

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Rifle Paper Co x LeSportsac Rectangle Cosmetics Pouch, $40

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Stay hydrated and nourished. The air is super dry during flights, so make sure to keep your body (including your lips and skin) hydrated. Bring an empty water bottle to fill up after you’ve made it through security and have the flight attendant refill when they make their routine beverage run. Include a couple of healthy snacks in your bag (fruit, protein bars) in case the airport options are less than appealing or don’t adhere to your diet.

Prepare for the just-in-case moments. Communal transportation is always going to be germy, so it’s smart to arm yourself with products just in case your experience needs some special attention to make yourself comfortable. Travel-sized disinfectant wipes and hand sanitizer are small enough to add in your bag, and you’ll thank yourself for having them after wiping away the questionable crumbs and smudges on your seat during boarding.

Set your luggage apart from the pack. if you’re in the market for a new bag, opt for a bag in a fun color or print. Or, choose a sturdy label or tag (that can’t easily be pulled off or removed) to clearly indicate which is yours.

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Rimowa North America Salsa Air Cabin Multiwheel Spinner, $495

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Before you start any journey, research the weather and conditions and requirements for your trip. Do your research, make a checklist of the things you absolutely need and start packing. If you travel frequently create a packing list on your computer that you can update to include “must-haves” and blank space for trip specific items.

Common mistakes when it comes to selecting what to pack:

  • Focusing too much on the “what if” situations
  • Choosing individual pieces vs. outfits
  • Bringing shoes that you’ve never worn before
  • Packing too many shoes: people usually pack too many shoes and they take up the most room because of their shapes. Follow the rules of three. Consider one casual sandal or loafer, sneakers, and an evening shoe.  Wear the heaviest pair on your flight and pack the other two.

How to make the most out of your packing:

  • Roll your clothing-it takes up so much less space and makes things less wrinkly
  • Use packing cubes to divide and conquer as they take up so much less space and you can fit a ton inside
  • Bring extra large ziploc bags because they will come in handy more often than you realized: corralling snacks, protecting your toiletries, or holding items that you purchased.
  • Add in a laundry bag to keep your dirty clothes separate and make unpacking easier. Just toss the contents of the bag in the wash and unpack the rest!
  • Opt for travel-size multi-taskers when it comes to your beauty products. Choose a tinted moisturizer that serves as foundation, a soap and shampoo in one, and wipes that clean hands and face.

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Eagle Creek Black Pack-It Cubes, $8.95-$12.95

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Rachel and Company is a full-service professional organizing firm specializing in home organization, closet design, and home moves in the Washington, DC area and beyond. Since 2007, founder Rachel Rosenthal and her team have worked with over 1,000+ busy families to make their homes organized and beautiful. Over the years, Rachel’s work and organizing tips have been featured in several publications, including The Wall Street Journal, Martha Stewart, Good Housekeeping, Better Homes and Garden, Washingtonian, Teen Vogue, House Beautiful, the Washington Post, Women’s Health, and Reader’s Digest.

True Confessions of a Personal Stylist

Posted by on May 13, 2017 in Blog

I lied to you. Seriously. I tell my friends, clients and blog readers to pick a date by which they want to fit into their pre-baby or other weight gain/body change happening clothes, and stick to it. If the clothes don’t fit by that date, away they go. I’ve also told you that even if you are hanging onto clothing that doesn’t currently fit, you should review it every season to make sure you still want to hang onto it. It is amazing how out of style your “favorites” will look to you after sitting in a bin for 5 years, or even 2.

So this is where I really tell you the down and dirty. I had a bin of clothes that pretty much hadn’t fit me since I became pregnant after my first year of marriage, 6 years ago. With every pregnancy I would rotate my bins of clothes, always ending up with one bin for each season labeled “Too Small”. I managed to either fit into or give away everything in the “Too Small Fall” bin a few years ago. However, I couldn’t seem to let go of the “Too Small Spring” bin, even after my youngest (James) turned 2 in 2015. I mean, if they didn’t fit by then, when were they supposed to start fitting? The super bad part is that I was so sure the clothes in this bin were too small, that I wouldn’t even open it! I stashed it at the top of our office closet (sorry Kyle!) and tried to forget it was there.

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The bins that have held my treasured “too small” clothes all this time

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Then…miracle of miracles…I finally lost some weight recently. Just in time for spring. It wasn’t much, but I figure it is as good as it is going to get with 2 kids and my own biz. This meant the day of reckoning for “the box” had come. And just like my clients, I hadn’t even remembered half the stuff that was in there! Why did I save an H&M tank top for 6 years? It was the perfect thing for a few skirts I had at the time but is certainly not age appropriate now and looked worn on top of that. I edited about half the box, put a quarter of it back in my closet (it fit!), and “archived” 3 or 4 dresses that I wore for wedding events and wasn’t ready to get rid of yet. Maybe they will fit again one day, maybe they won’t. But I promise I’ll review the idea of keeping them every year. I mean it this time!

Do you forgive me?

Are you hanging onto clothes that don’t fit? Have I convinced you to review them regularly? Please share!

Love,

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Avant Garde at the Met Gala

Posted by on May 7, 2017 in Blog

“Just how many celebrities have the guts to wear Comme des Garçons on the red carpet?” I’m stealing that opening line from the Women’s Wear Daily coverage on the Met Ball because it was the same question I had before getting a peak at the looks Tuesday morning. This year’s Met exhibit from The Costume Institute honors Rei Kawakubo, the founder and designer of Comme des Garçons. This is only the second exhibition that covers only one living designer’s work, the last being Yves Saint Laurent in 1983.

The Met Gala is the annual fundraising event for The Costume Institute, and this year the invitation called for avant garde attire. Yet many of the attendees barely broke out of their comfort zone. I mean, why wouldn’t you take the opportunity to rock a piece of crazy beautiful, wearable art? This is the one time of the year where it is completely accepted encouraged. Check out this W Magazine article for pictures of the 9 celebrities bold enough to wear Comme des Garçons.  My favorite? Tracee Ellis Ross won my heart in this amazing cobalt blue dress.

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Rihanna, who has been deemed a Met Gala Queen, wore the most dramatic Comme des Garçons dress with humongous 3D flowers. I could do without the thigh-high strappy sandals, which took her an hour to get into, but I love her makeup.

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Model Anna Cleveland is no stranger to Comme des Garçons garments; she’s walked the runway for the brand for the past two years. This deconstructed suit complete with hundred of white bows was part of their Fall 2015 collection. You can read more about her relationship with Rei Kawakubo in this Vogue article.

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Caroline Kennedy wore this floral look from Comme des Garçons Fall 2016 collection, the same collection Rihanna pulled from. I think she is one of the only people who could pull off this look with such grace and poise.

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Of those not wearing Comme des Garçons, below are my favorite looks. Which one was your favorite?

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Ruth Negga in Valentino

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Solange Knowles in Thom Browne

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Evan Rachel Wood in Altuzarra

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Rami Malek in Dior Homme

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You can find Kyle Dunphy and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Kick Flare Jeans for Cheap

Posted by on May 7, 2017 in Blog

RLS is really, really excited about the kick flare denim trend. So excited in fact that we’ve brought you a multitude of options at every price point, from $35-$250. There, now you have no excuse not to at least try this trend! As a bonus, most of the kick flares have a higher waist, which is what those of us in the over 35 set are looking for in our denim.

Wondering what shoes to wear with your new kick flares? A barely there sandal, cute sneakers, a mule of any kind, and chunky sandals are all good options. Not a good option? The ballet flat, which is how Old Navy decided to style their version of the kick flare in the picture below. Beware, ballet flats are best worn with your skinny jeans.

Happy Shopping!

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Frame Le High Flare Crop Jeans, $229

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Rag & Bone/Jean Crop Flare, $250

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BDG Kick Flare Cropped Jean, $64

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Topshop Moto Vintage Wash Kick Flare Jeans, $70

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Old Navy Flare Ankle Jeans, $34.94

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

My New Competition

Posted by on April 29, 2017 in Blog

Amazon echo look, $199

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Watch the video first!!!

In case you haven’t read the news recently, the so-called Amazon effect is putting a lot of retailers out of business these days. Is it also going to put personal stylists and image consultants out of business? Need to put coconut water on your shopping list? Ask Alexa. Need to know which necklace to wear with your outfit? Ask Alexa. No, seriously.

With echo look, Amazon has not only included a hands free, LED light enhanced camera that takes outfit flattering pictures and videos, but also Style Check, Amazon’s answer to the personal stylist. See below.

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Want one? Well, click here to request an invitation when it is available. The echo look is so fashionable it has a virtual velvet rope! The other fabulous aspect of the echo look is that it can automatically upload your #ootd (that is Outfit of the Day for those of you who don’t know) to the cloud for you, creating your own virtual lookbook. Wondering what you wore last Thanksgiving so that you don’t repeat your favorite dress this year? Just ask Alexa.

I’m thinking about getting one for the RLS office. First and foremost, we have been struggling forever to find a good way to take outfit posts ourselves. Lighting is the biggest issue. Well actually, the biggest issue is that I hate every picture that Kyle (who is great at photos!) takes of me, and rarely let her post any of them on our Instagram. If Alexa takes professional quality photos and videos that make my outfits sparkle and make me look as if I’ve lost 10 lbs, the echo look is hired.

In the meantime, I’m still waiting for my invitation.

Love,

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Who Says A Uniform Has To Be Boring?

Posted by on April 26, 2017 in Blog

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OBSESSED. Seriously. Who wouldn’t love a dress that was designed to be comfortable, flattering and travel friendly? This combo usually results in a big, boring mess of a dress. But imagine if this combination came in always changing, limited edition African dutch wax prints that made you happy just thinking about them? Welcome to Zuri, created by American expats and friends, Sandra Zhao and Ashley Gersh Miller, while living in Nairobi, Kenya. Oh, and did I mention the business is run with the focus of supporting the local population in a sustainable fashion?

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We’ve been talking a lot lately about the idea of a uniform, which again, usually equals sameness, resulting in wardrobe boredom for those of us who need to be inspired by our clothes. But what if you kept the same always flattering silhouette, thereby eliminating all wardrobe decisions other than which brilliant pattern shall I wear today? It is like taking out only the painful part of getting dressed (is my belly sticking out in this skirt?) and leaving all of the fun.  The brands hashtag? #justonedress

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We’re here at @stfranktextiles in Palo Alto! Come by and say hi 🤗 #justonedress #heyzuri

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Do my readers know that I am obsessed with African/Indian/batik prints? I’ve always loved the idea of a western style in these exotic prints. I have a few dresses that I’ve managed to procure over the years, and even had a plain linen dress of mine copied in a gorgeous block print one of our State Department clients brought back for me from India. I’m hoping to have another one made this summer from another print I have.

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Do you love these dresses as much as me and Kyle? Do you like the idea of a fashionable uniform? Tell us what you think on the RLS Facebook page.

Happy Shopping!

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P.S. I love that the the model is wearing our favorite Birkenstock style! I can’t wait to break out my silver ones for the season.

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Words of Wisdom from André Leon Talley

Posted by on April 23, 2017 in Blog

André Leon Talley on Diversity, Fashion, First Ladies — and Kellyanne Conway’s Inauguration Outfit

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André Leon Talley, one of fashion’s most storied journalists and a former long-time VOGUE editor, recently sat down with journalist Tamron Hall for an in-depth discussion. Tamron called him a “black superhero.” I just see him as a “fashion superhero.”  Check out his voluminous red caftan (he is known for his caftans) which reads as his own sort of fashion superhero cape. He was and is such an important voice in fashion. As someone raised and supported by his Grandmother, a maid at Duke University in North Carolina who instilled in him a love and understanding of luxury, he used to escape into the pages of Vogue as a teen. This man knows the power of fashion to transform and transport. He does not take it lightly. Below is my favorite quote from the very quotable article I read on the interview in WWD.

 

“It is a moral code to dress well. Whatever your budget-you can wear a white shirt from Banana Republic and be well dressed.”

-André Leon Talley

 

Is he saying it is a form of respect for yourself and others to dress well? And that budget is not an excuse? I think that maybe he is. What do you think? The number one thing our clients tell us they want from our personal styling/personal shopping/image consulting (whatever words you want to call it!) service, is to look and feel put together. Which brings us to my second favorite quote from Mr. Talley’s interview with Tamron Hall.

 

“Fashion lifts you up out of the doldrums.”

-André Leon Talley

 

Yes, André, we know. Amazing how some people don’t see it though. We see it everyday here at RLS, which is why I’ve always said I get paid to make women feel good about themselves, not to style clothes. Oh how lucky am I?!

Want to hear more words of wisdom from the venerable André Leon Talley? Check out his new SiriusXM radio show, Full-Length, on the Andy Cohen channel.

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Lani Inlander is a personal stylist who has been working with clients who want to feel their best and look put-together every day for over 15 years. You can find her in the Washington, D.C. and New York metropolitan areas. Are you looking for professional training to be a personal stylist? Click here to learn how you can train with Lani at The Stylist Studio

You can find Lani Inlander and Real Life Style on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.